jana ilitokea milipuko ya mabomu katika ghala la jeshi maeneo ya gongo la mboto, na pichani ndio taswira ilivyokuwa usiku wa kuamkia leo.mpaka sasa inasemekana watu 15 wameshfariki dunia na majeruhi ni wengi sana. na mpaka sasa kuna watu zaidi ya 1500, katika uwanja wa uhuru wakiwa hawana makazi.unaombwa kutoa msaada wa hali na mali kuwasaidia waathirika wa mabomu hayo
Friday
MILIPUKO YA MABOM GONGO LA MBOTO
jana ilitokea milipuko ya mabomu katika ghala la jeshi maeneo ya gongo la mboto, na pichani ndio taswira ilivyokuwa usiku wa kuamkia leo.mpaka sasa inasemekana watu 15 wameshfariki dunia na majeruhi ni wengi sana. na mpaka sasa kuna watu zaidi ya 1500, katika uwanja wa uhuru wakiwa hawana makazi.unaombwa kutoa msaada wa hali na mali kuwasaidia waathirika wa mabomu hayo
Trey Songz – ‘Love Faces’ EXCLUSIVE
Monday
Rihanna And Drake Flirt, Fire Up Grammy Stage
Rihanna was joined by Drake and the two delivered a flirtatious rendition of their "What's My Name?" The Toronto lyricist — dressed in a black leather jacket, boots, sweater and cargo pants — dropped his sexually charged opening rhyme then positioned himself behind Rih Rih for a quick two-step as pyrotechnics fired off in the background.
"Not everybody knows how to work my body," Rihanna sang. "Knows how to make me want it/ Boy you stay up on it/ You got that something / That keeps me so off balance/ Baby you're a challenge, lets explore your talent."
Rihanna traded in the extravagant gown she wore for her performance with Eminem for "Love the Way You Lie" in favor of short red number that was as fiery as her hair. The backdrop could have passed for an erotic scene in Pacino's "The Devil's Advocate." It was by far the sexiest performance of the night.
During a short Calypso-style breakdown, Rihanna shook and shimmied with a sneaky grin. "Ooh na na, what's my name?" she sang on the chorus. "What's my name, what's my name?"
"Baby you got me, ain't nowhere that I'd be," Rih continued on with her verse. "Then with your arms around me, back and forth you rock me/ So I surrender, to every word you whisper/ Every door you enter, I will let you in."
Justin Bieber Performs with Usher and Jaden Smith at Grammys
Lady Gaga poses with Beyoncé and Usher backstage at the 53rd Annual Grammy Awards at the Staples Center in Los Angeles. Gaga picked up the awards for Best Pop Vocal Album, Best Short Form Music Video, and Best Female Pop Vocal Performance, while Usher took home Best Contemporary R&B Album and Best Male R&B Vocal Performance.
Do you agree with Nasty Nas that "Born This Way" is a banger?
53rd Annual Grammy Awards: Backstage
Baby Birdman kamjibu Jay Z, Kanunua gari la billioni 1.5
Thursday
Lil wayne Live kwenye stage akiperform Green & Yellow..!!
Diddy na Cassie Livee.....!!! Kama walivyo zaliwa..!
Jennifer Lopez amesema kua inawezekana Lil wanyne dio The best Rapper Alive
Lil Wayne Pays Off $ 1.13 Million Dollar Tax Debt
See Court Documents Here
The Young Money/Cash Money camp have another reason to celebrate after the Green Bay Packers' Super Bowl win last night. Wayne is a big fan of the green and yellow, and Birdman reportedly laid down a $1 million dollar bet on the team
Friday
Chris Brown – ‘Up to You’ [Snippet]
A lovestruck Breezy lets his girl call the shots on the slow jam. “I’ma be the one to take a back seat girl/ We can take our time and you can run this/ Stay in, go out/ Anything you want girl, we can do,” he sings.
“my album will contain all types of styles and genres of music…. hopefully my music will inspire and spread peace and positivity,” he told Team Breezy.
Thursday
Dr.dre na Emeniem wachaguliwa kuperform ndani ya tuzo ya grammy 2011
50cent Hatomnunulia mtoto wake gari aina ya Ferrari
Monday
NICKI MINAJ LYRICS
"Right Thru Me"
[CHORUS:]
You see right through me how do you do that shit [3X]
How do you [5X]
You let me win, you let me ride, you let me rock,
you let me slide and when they looking,
you let me hide, defend my honor, protect my pride
The good advice, I always hated but looking back,
it made me greater, you always told me,
forget the haters just get my money, just get my waiter up
Know when I'm lying, know when I'm crying
It's like you got it, down to a science, why am I trying,
Know you ain't dying, I try to fight it, back with defiance,
you make me laugh, you make me hoarse from yelling at you,
and getting at you, picking up dishes, throwing em at you,
why are you speaking when no one asked you.
[CHORUS 2X]
What are we doing, could you see through me,
cause you say Nicki and I say who me?
and you say no you, and I say screw you,
then you start dressing and you start leaving,
and I start crying, and I start screaming,
the heavy breathing, well, what's the reason,
always get the reaction you wanted,
I'm actually fronting, I'm asking you something
YO, answer this question, class is in session,
tired of letting passive aggression, control my mind,
capture my soul, OK, you're right just let it go,
OK you got it, its in the can, before I played it,
you knew my hand, you can turn a free throw to a goal,
Nigga got the peep hole to my soul
[CHORUS 2X]
Stop!
Stop!
Won't you just stop looking through me 'cause I can't take it, no I can't take it
[CHORUS]
KERI HILSON LYRICS
"Pretty Girl Rock"
Uh uh uh ah uh uh
I can do the pretty girl rock, rock
Rock to the pretty girl rock, rock, rock
Now what's your name
My name is Keri, I'm so very
Fly oh my, it's a little bit scary
Boys wanna marry, looking at my derrière
And you can stare but if you touch it Imma bury
Pretty as a picture
Sweeter than a swisher
Mad 'cause I'm cuter than the girl that's with you
I don't gotta talk about it baby you can see it
But if you want I'll be happy to repeat it
My name is Keri, I'm so very
Fly oh my, it's a little bit scary
Boys wanna marry, looking at my derrière
And you can stare but if you touch it Imma bury
Pretty as a picture
Sweeter than a swisher
Mad 'cause I'm cuter than the girl that's with you
I can talk about it 'cause I know that I'm pretty
And if you know it too then ladies sing it with me
All eyes on me when I walk in,
No question that this girl's a 10
Don't hate me 'cause I'm beautiful
Don't hate me 'cause I'm beautiful
My walk, my talk, the way I drip
It's not my fault, so please don't trip
Don't hate me 'cause I'm beautiful
Don't hate me 'cause I'm beautiful
Aye, now do the pretty girl rock, rock, rock
Do the pretty girl rock, rock, rock
Do the pretty girl rock, rock
All my ladies do the pretty girl rock, rock, rock
Do the pretty girl rock, rock, rock
Do the pretty girl rock, rock
Do the pretty girl rock
(Now where you at)
If your looking for me you can catch me (that's why)
Cameras flashing, daddy turned his head just as soon as I passed him
Girls think I'm conceited 'cause I know I'm attractive
Don't worry about what I think, why don't you ask him? (owoaah!)
Get yourself together, don't hate (never do it)
Jealousy is the ugliest trait (don't, never do it)
I can talk about it 'cause I know that I'm pretty
And if you know it too then ladies sing it with me
All eyes on me when I walk in,
No question that this girl's a 10
Don't hate me 'cause I'm beautiful
Don't hate me 'cause I'm beautiful
My walk, my talk, the way I drip
It's not my fault so please don't trip
Don't hate me 'cause I'm beautiful
Don't hate me 'cause I'm beautiful
Doing the pretty girl rock, rock, rock
Do the pretty girl rock, rock, rock
Do the pretty girl rock, rock
Do the pretty girl rock, rock
All my ladies do the pretty girl rock, rock, rock
Get along with your pretty girl rock, rock, rock
Still show me your pretty girl rock, rock, rock
All my ladies do the pretty girl rock, rock, rock
Sing it with me now
All eyes on me when I walk in,
No question that this girl's a 10
Don't hate me 'cause I'm beautiful
Don't hate me 'cause I'm beautiful
My walk, my talk, the way I drip
It's not my fault so please don't trip
Don't hate me 'cause I'm beautiful
Don't hate me 'cause I'm beautiful
All eyes on me when I walk in,
No question that this girl's a 10
Don't hate me 'cause I'm beautiful
Don't hate me 'cause I'm beautiful
My walk, my talk, the way I drip
It's not my fault so please don't trip
Don't hate me 'cause I'm beautiful
Don't hate me 'cause I'm beautiful
Owoahaha!
DIDDY - DIRTY MONEY LYRICS
Coming Home"
(with Dirty Money
feat. Skylar Grey)
I'm coming home
I'm coming home
Tell the World I'm coming home
Let the rain wash away all the pain of yesterday
I know my kingdom awaits and they've forgiven my mistakes
I'm coming home, I'm coming home
Tell the World that I'm coming
[Diddy]
I'm back where I belong, yeah I never felt so strong (yeah)
(I'm back baby)
I feel like there's nothing that I can't try
And if you with me put your hands high
(put your hands high)
If you ever lost a light before, this ones for you
And you, the dreams are for you
I hear "The Tears of a Clown"
I hate that song
I always feel like they talking to me when it comes on (come on)
Another day another Dawn
Another Keisha, nice to meet ya, get the math I'm gone
What am I 'posed to do when the club lights come on
Its easy to be Puff, its harder to be Sean
What if the twins ask why I aint marry their mom (why, damn!)
How do I respond?
What if my son stares with a face like my own
And says he wants to be like me when he's grown
Sh-t! But I aint finished growing
Another night the inevitible prolongs
Another day another Dawn
Just tell Taneka and Taresha I'll be better in the morn'
Another lie that I carry on
I need to get back to the place I belong
[Dirty Money - Chorus]
I'm coming home
I'm coming home
Tell the World I'm coming home
Let the rain wash away all the pain of yesterday
I know my kingdom awaits and they've forgiven my mistakes
I'm coming home, I'm coming home
Tell the World that I'm coming
[Diddy]
"A house is Not a Home", I hate this song
Is a house really a home when your loved ones are gone
And n-ggas got the nerve to blame you for it
And you know you woulda took the bullet if you saw it
But you felt it and still feel it
And money can't make up for it or conceal it
But you deal with it and you keep ballin'
Pour out some liquor, play ball and we keep ballin'
Baby we've been living in sin 'cause we've been really in love
But we've been living as friends
So you've been a guest in your own home
It's time to make your house your home
Pick up your phone, come on
[Dirty Money - Chorus]
I'm coming home
I'm coming home
Tell the World I'm coming home
Let the rain wash away all the pain of yesterday
I know my kingdom awaits and they've forgiven my mistakes
I'm coming home, I'm coming home
Tell the World that I'm coming
[Diddy]
"Ain't No Stopping Us Now", I love that song
Whenever it comes on it makes me feel strong
I thought I told y'all that we won't stop
We back cruising through Harlem, Viso blocks
It's what made me, saved me, drove me crazy
Drove me away than embraced me
Forgave me for all of my shortcomings
Welcome to my homecoming
Yeah it's been a long time coming
Lot of fights, lot of scars, lot of bottles
Lot of cars, lot of ups, lot of downs
Made it back, lost my dog (I miss you BIG)
And here I stand, a better man! (a better man)
Thank you Lord (Thank you Lord)
[Dirty Money - Chorus]
I'm coming home
I'm coming home
Tell the World I'm coming home
Let the rain wash away all the pain of yesterday
I know my kingdom awaits and they've forgiven my mistakes
I'm coming home, I'm coming home
Tell the World that I'm coming
(with Dirty Money
feat. Skylar Grey)
I'm coming home
I'm coming home
Tell the World I'm coming home
Let the rain wash away all the pain of yesterday
I know my kingdom awaits and they've forgiven my mistakes
I'm coming home, I'm coming home
Tell the World that I'm coming
[Diddy]
I'm back where I belong, yeah I never felt so strong (yeah)
(I'm back baby)
I feel like there's nothing that I can't try
And if you with me put your hands high
(put your hands high)
If you ever lost a light before, this ones for you
And you, the dreams are for you
I hear "The Tears of a Clown"
I hate that song
I always feel like they talking to me when it comes on (come on)
Another day another Dawn
Another Keisha, nice to meet ya, get the math I'm gone
What am I 'posed to do when the club lights come on
Its easy to be Puff, its harder to be Sean
What if the twins ask why I aint marry their mom (why, damn!)
How do I respond?
What if my son stares with a face like my own
And says he wants to be like me when he's grown
Sh-t! But I aint finished growing
Another night the inevitible prolongs
Another day another Dawn
Just tell Taneka and Taresha I'll be better in the morn'
Another lie that I carry on
I need to get back to the place I belong
[Dirty Money - Chorus]
I'm coming home
I'm coming home
Tell the World I'm coming home
Let the rain wash away all the pain of yesterday
I know my kingdom awaits and they've forgiven my mistakes
I'm coming home, I'm coming home
Tell the World that I'm coming
[Diddy]
"A house is Not a Home", I hate this song
Is a house really a home when your loved ones are gone
And n-ggas got the nerve to blame you for it
And you know you woulda took the bullet if you saw it
But you felt it and still feel it
And money can't make up for it or conceal it
But you deal with it and you keep ballin'
Pour out some liquor, play ball and we keep ballin'
Baby we've been living in sin 'cause we've been really in love
But we've been living as friends
So you've been a guest in your own home
It's time to make your house your home
Pick up your phone, come on
[Dirty Money - Chorus]
I'm coming home
I'm coming home
Tell the World I'm coming home
Let the rain wash away all the pain of yesterday
I know my kingdom awaits and they've forgiven my mistakes
I'm coming home, I'm coming home
Tell the World that I'm coming
[Diddy]
"Ain't No Stopping Us Now", I love that song
Whenever it comes on it makes me feel strong
I thought I told y'all that we won't stop
We back cruising through Harlem, Viso blocks
It's what made me, saved me, drove me crazy
Drove me away than embraced me
Forgave me for all of my shortcomings
Welcome to my homecoming
Yeah it's been a long time coming
Lot of fights, lot of scars, lot of bottles
Lot of cars, lot of ups, lot of downs
Made it back, lost my dog (I miss you BIG)
And here I stand, a better man! (a better man)
Thank you Lord (Thank you Lord)
[Dirty Money - Chorus]
I'm coming home
I'm coming home
Tell the World I'm coming home
Let the rain wash away all the pain of yesterday
I know my kingdom awaits and they've forgiven my mistakes
I'm coming home, I'm coming home
Tell the World that I'm coming
Game’s ‘R.E.D. Album’ to Be Star-Studded Fest
The West Coast MC claims that his oft-delayed fourth LP will exceed any material on his mixtapes. “The mixtape s*** is incredible by the fans’ choice, but I know my music and the album is 20 times better than the mixtape,” he told Rap-Up.com. “It’s just a mixtape. I had no intention that it was going to be this big of a deal, but if people are raving over this mixtape like that, then the album is nothing to play with.”
Game maintains that R.E.D. will still be executive produced by Pharrell and feature production from Dr. Dre, and that he’s only a week away from settling on an official single. “I got a couple singles picked out. I talk to the label in a week and I’ll play them the whole album and we’ll come to an agreement collectively on what we should go with,” he explained. “I got shitloads of singles for the album. So we’ll see what catches and we’ll roll with it.”
As far as collaborations, the former G-Unit rapper did reveal that Chris Brown and Wiz Khalifa will make the final cut. “Oh yeah, Wiz is on the album, Chris is on the album. Pretty much everyone is on the album,” he shared. “Whoever you could think of. Except Jay-Z and 50.”
Though he wouldn’t say who else would be featured on the LP, he assures that R.E.D. will arrive in the next few months. “The album is going to be finished within the next couple of weeks so you can be looking for Interscope to get behind the single and push it and deliver a date,” he said. “The s*** that’s on The R.E.D. Album is incredible.”
Eti Nicky Minaj ni Boss wa Drake
Friday
P.Diddy anadaiwa faini ya Dollar Trillion 1 za kimarekani..
Over the years Sean "Puffy" Combs has seen his share of beefs and crazy situations.
There was the time he popped Steve Stoute over the head with a champagne bottle for leaving a scene with Nas being crucified in their 1999 video "Hate Me Now" Then there was the 2005 Hot 97 shouting match with The Lox, where Jadakiss and Styles P were calling Puffy every name in the book, demanding their publishing. Of course last June's bizarre interview with Martin Bashir has to be mentioned, if only for the fact of how confused Diddy looked the entire interview while Bashir "mindf*cked" him.
All of that pales in comparison to the lawsuit that was just filed against the Bad Boy CEO that accuses him of rape, being a deadbeat dad and bringing down the World Trade Center.
Valerie Joyce Wilson Turks, who is obviously off her recommended dose of meds, filed the lawsuit seeking $1 Trillion dollars from Combs reports Radar Online.
The lawsuit also names Diddy's girlfriend, Kim Porter and L.A. police beating victim Rodney King.
"[Diddy] went through Kim Porter and Rodney King and knocked down the WTC and then they all came and knocked my children down. Set me up to be on disability and disabled my baby. he put my baby in a wheelchair." Turks alleges in the suit.
She claims Diddy fathered her 23-year old son, Cornelius Wilson.
"He date raped me 24 years ago and knocked me down him and Kim Porter and Wallace Wright, then Sean Combs and Kim and Wallace Wright came back 18 years later and raped and sexually abused my children and knocked my children down and crushed me and my children daily.
Plus I won a lot of money at the casino in Mississippi and Sean P. Diddy Combs has my chip to my money. I heard he gave it to Gwen Allen to hold but she can not cash it in. I want my chip please help me. it's well worth over 100 zillions of dollars, and my hospital keys. They put me and my baby in the hospital and broke my baby 2 legs and sexual assaulted my children and crushed us." Turks wrote.
Read documents here
She wants $900 billion dollars in child support, and $100 billion dollars for “loss of income.”
This isn't the 1st time a crazy woman has bothered Combs. Last year a Florida woman, Cemilia Green was arrested after trying to break into his Hamptons crib. When caught by police Green said she was Diddy's wife.
Looks like Diddy might want to up his security detail.
50cent aelezea mafuns wake kuusu beef lake na Cam'ron
List ya watu wenye Beef na 50cent...
Jay Z, Young Buck, Kanye West, Fat Joe, Ja Rule,
Wyclef Jean,Big Pun, The Game, Rick ross, Lil wayne, Birdman,
Nas,
Snoop Dogg Puts Out Video Pleading For Lady Gaga To Record Track With Him "It's A Real Nice, Freaky Deaky Kind Of Song"
I guess when you can't track down an entertainer by phone, the next best thing is putting up a youtube video plea.
That's what West Coast veteran rapper Snoop Dogg hopes to accomplish with his video released yesterday (January 24), asking Lady Gaga to record a song with him.
"Attention, this is an APB (all-points bulletin) out for Lady Gaga, big Snoop Dogg is lookin' for you, I'm trying to do a song with you. It's a real nice freaky deaky kind of song. Get at me." The Doggfather said.
Snoop is set to drop his 11th album "Doggumentary", in March, maybe we will hear a Snoop/Gaga collaboration on that disc.
Would you like to hear Lady Gaga on a Snoop Dogg track?
Lil Kim anatoka na kitu cha Black Friday "MIXTAPE
Monday
Lil Wayne Gets ‘Revenge’ with Nicki Minaj
Roman is about to meet Lil Wayne. Weezy is squaring off with Nicki Minaj’s alter-ego on the remix to “Roman’s Revenge.” The Harajuku Barbie’s mentor has recorded a remix to the Swizz Beatz-produced song, Rap-Up.com can confirm. The new version will be released to iTunes next week. Eminem was featured on the original track, which is included on Nicki’s platinum-certified debut Pink Friday.
The Young Money raptress was hopeful about getting Wayne on a remix following his release from Rikers Island last November. “I think that he’s definitely going to be doing a remix, as he was in jail when I recorded Pink Friday,” she told DJ Skee. “He’s not on Pink Friday, so I will definitely want to get his little butt in the studio to do a remix right away.”
Nicki may deliver a performance of “Roman’s Revenge,” with or without Weezy, when she hits “SNL” on January 29
Snoop Dogg na Game watoka na kitu cha ‘Purp & Yellow
Demu wa Mr Black and Yellow a.k.a Wiz Khalifa mwanadada Amber Rose amemkiss mwanamke mwenzake hadharani
Message ya Kanye West kwa Britney spears
Friday
Kanye and Lil Wayne secretly collaborate
New Music: Foxy Brown – ‘Massacre’ (Lil’ Kim diss}
“First a bitch wanna hate on Foxy/ Ten years later now she hating Minajie,” raps Brooklyn’s Don Diva over Jay-Z’s “So Ghetto” instrumental. “And all that subliminal rap shit, I’ll put you in a Chinchilla casket … Bear witness to the rise and the fall of Miss Kimberly Jones.”
Did Foxy’s “Massacre” leave her longtime rival bloody? You decide
Cash Money Records to issue a book?
BallerStatus.com reports Birdman and Lil Wayne’s Cash Money Records label are looking to drop a new book called Raw Law: An Urban Guide to Criminal Justice next month. Readers will learn more abut the “real” criminal justice system through author and attorney Muhammad Ibn Bashir. If you’re interested, Raw Law will hit shelves on February 15th and retails for $22 for a hardcover and $15.99 for a paperback version.
Nicki Minaj Says She and Rihanna Would Be a ‘Crazy Power Couple’
The Harajuku Barbie called into Ryan Seacrest’s KIIS FM show this morning to clear up the situation. “I don’t know where people got this really insane, hilarious, random rumor that [Rihanna] and I were living together,” she said.
The sexy ladies laughed about the chatter while shooting the video for “Fly” from Nicki’s debut Pink Friday last weekend in Los Angeles. “We just shot a video for a song I have on the album called ‘Fly,’” shared Nicki. “So when I saw her, the first thing I said was, ‘So did you hear we’re living together?’ And we just started cracking up laughing. She was like, ‘Yo, I can’t believe people are this ridiculous.’”
She continued, “So we TwitPiced ourselves and she put it on Twitter and said, ‘Me and Nicki at our new pad or something.’ And the funny thing is, people still didn’t realize we were joking. People were hitting me like, ‘Oh my God, you’re so lucky. You and Rihanna…’ It was like, ‘What?’ But you can’t even be sarcastic anymore. It was hilarious though.”
While they’re not an item, the fantasy is not completely dead. “We’re not getting cozy—yet. There is a possibility ’cause she’s just a bad bitch. You never know. That’d be like a freakin’ crazy power couple right now in the world of females.”
Unamfumania mpenzi wako lakini hauko tayari kumkosa, ufanyeje?

Nimemfumania, kaamua kunipotezea
Swali:Niliwahi kuwa na mpenzi wangu lakini siku za hivi karibuni nilimfumania na rafiki yangu laivu wakiwa katika mazingira yanayoonesha kuwa walikuwa wakifanya mapenzi.
Baada ya kumnasa niliumia sana hasa kutokana na maelezo yake ya awali kwamba, angenipenda daima na kamwe asingenisaliti.
Cha ajabu baada ya tukio hilo, kutokana na kukasirishwa nikaamua kumpotezea nikijua angenitafuta na kuniomba msamaha.
Cha ajabu tangu siku hiyo na yeye akawa hana ‘taimu’ na mimi kama mtu ambaye hajuti kwa kitendo alichokifanya na wala hajuti kunikosa. Mimi nampenda sana na nahisi siko tayari kumkosa. Nimtafute nimwambie kuwa yaliyopita nimesamehe tuendelee na uhusiano wetu au nimuache tu? Nisaidie katika hili Anko.
Jibu:Kwanza kabisa kitendo alichofanya huyo mpenzi wako kinaonesha wazi kwamba, hana mapenzi ya dhati na wewe na kama utang’ang’ania kuendelea kuwa naye, ipo siku atakuja kukuumiza zaidi ya hapo.
Kama ni mtu anayekupenda, angeonesha kujutia kosa lake na hapo ningeweza kukushauri umsamehe kisha umpe nafasi nyingine lakini kama kaamua kuuchuna, sioni sababu ya wewe kumtafuta. Muache na hata kama itakuwa ndiyo moja kwa moja amini kwamba huyo hakupangwa kuwa mumeo. Wako yuko njiani.
Wivu wa mpenzi wangu
unatishia amani ya penzi letu
Swali: Anko Shalua, mpenzi wangu ana wivu sana, inafika wakati naona ni kero kwangu kwani wivu wake umepitiliza. Je, ni kweli wivu una nafasi katika mapenzi?
Je, kuna faida zozote za wivu huu ambao wakati mwingine hutishia amani ya penzi letu? Kama zipo naomba unisaidie ili nijue nisimchukie mpenzi wangu kwani huenda ana nia njema ni tatizo la mimi kutomuelewa tu.
Mohammed R.
Kibamba.
Jibu:Huko nyuma nilishawahi kuandika makala iliyokuwa inahusu wivu na nafasi yake katika mapenzi. Nikasema kwamba, wivu katika uhusiano wa dhati una nafasi kubwa na nikaongeza kuwa, endapo utaingia kwenye uhusiano na mtu na akaonesha kutokuwa na wivu kabisa na wewe, huyo penzi lake kwako litakuwa na walakini.
Hata hivyo, niseme tu kwamba kila kitu kikizidi kiwango kinakuwa na madhara, wazungu wanasema ‘everything too much is harmful’.Wivu nao ukizidi sana ni tatizo na kweli inaweza kuwa sababu ya nyie kuachana.
Kwa kifupi wivu usio wa kupitiliza una
faida kama zifuatazo;
Kwanza inaonesha kujali. Sote tunaamini pasipo na wivu hata chembe, hapana mapenzi ya dhati. Mpenzi wako anapoonesha wivu kwako anakujulisha ni kiasi gani anakujali na kukupenda na kwamba wewe ni mtu maalum sana kwake.
Jamani, mahali penye mapenzi yasiyo na wivu hata kidogo, panatia shaka! Na mara nyingi majibu yake ni kutokuwa ‘sirias’ katika uhusiano huo au huenda kuna kupitisha muda tu na kwamba labda hakuna ‘future’ na mpenzi huyo au ni dalili ya kuchuja kwa penzi.
Pili, inadhihirisha kwamba anathamini uhusiano wenu. ‘Siyo kama sikuamini mume wangu, bali wivu wangu kwako ni katika kuuthamini uhusiano wetu, mimi na wewe ni umoja wenye thamani kubwa, tusiruhusu kuuchezea nje yetu! Huu ni mfano wa ujumbe unaoonesha maana na nafasi ya wivu katika uhusiano wa kimapenzi.
Tatu, ni katika kukumbushana. Kauli au matendo yanayoashiria kumuonesha wivu mpenzio yanasaidia kwa kiasi kikubwa kumfanya asijisahau katika jukumu la kulienzi penzi lenu hata akiwa mbali ya upeo wa macho yako.
Nne, ni kujijengea heshima. Kwa namna moja au nyingine, wivu pia huweza kukujengea heshima. Kwa mfano mume mwenye wivu na mkewe hujijengea heshima ya kwamba kweli anamjali na kumpenda mkewe lakini pia anaweka mazingira ya kutosumbuliwa kwa mke wake huyo kumjengea heshima yake kama mke wa mtu.
Tano, inasaidia kubadilisha tabia. Ukiwa na wivu, unaotokana na mavazi tatanishi anayopendelea kuvaa mpenzi wako kwa mfano, huenda ikasaidia kubadili tabia yake.
“Ni kweli umependeza na umetoka ‘chicha’ ile mbaya mpenzi, lakini mh! Naogopa wanaume wakware watakusumbua honey, unaonaje ukavaa simpo tu?” Kama anakupenda huenda akabadilika kidogo na hivyo ‘vivazi vyake.
Niliyoyaeleza hapo juu ni baadhi tu ya faida za wivu.Kwa maana hiyo isifike wakati ukamchukia mpenzi wako kwa kuonesha wivu kwako. Yawezekana anafanya hivyo kwa lengo la kuboresha na si kuharibu uhusiano na kutokuelewa kwako ndiko kunakufanya uone ni kero.
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